The Giving Experiment

This morning I got to Starbucks 30 minutes before my 9:00 appointment with the idea I would work a little. This is my place, they know my name, my drink, and my schedule. The baristas are awesome, know that I am in ministry and will often have my drink ready when I get to the front of the line on Tuesdays so I can get to staff meeting. It's quite funny when I have a guest with me, and makes me realize just how much of a creature of habit I am.

I sat down with my coffee this morning and opened my laptop only to discover it was dead, and my charger was at home. Not enough time to go to the office, but too much time to just play on my phone. So I decided... It's December, what could be more fun than people watching and maybe a random act of kindness or two to stir up the Christmas spirit? I ran up to the register and gave Emily (the cashier) some cash. I told her to look at me and if I nodded to pay for their drink out of the money and say it was a random Christmas gift from a person who wanted to brighten their day. She loved playing along, and I took my spot.

Minutes later, a woman stressed out, dragging two toddlers and a crying baby came in. Of course I nodded, the lady smiled and looked around the room as she waited for her drink. She even asked a few people around her if anyone knew who did it. A few minutes later a man, clearly well off, dressed in a full suit, long coat and hat came in. I was intrigued to see how he would respond, so I gave the signal and she told him a random stranger paid for his drink. He laughed and said he could cover it! Really? It was free? Just when I was in disbelief, he said to Emily, "well I don't want to steal a blessing, so take this 5$ and do the same for someone else". Ha! He paid it forward and you could see it made his day.

Over the course of 30 minutes 9 people came in and had a random act of kindness given to them. The part of this that fascinated me was the change of the room. A room that every morning is quiet, people flipping through their phones keeping to themselves had transformed into this place of buzzing friendly conversations. Watching the register to see if it would continue, who got it, and trying to crack a code! There was eye contact and laughter, few phones were out, and people were interacting. I don't think anyone ever caught on, and I had a blast. The last lady that was paid for turned to me and said, "I just moved here, this is quite the friendly place". It gave me an opportunity to invite her to our Christmas Eve services. Who knows, maybe all of that was for her?

It never ceases to amaze me how giving, in any form, leads to contagious joy.

Best 40 bucks I have spent in a long time.

Merry Christmas All!

Gifts of Christmas

Christmas time! My favorite time of year. A season that we can surround everything we  do with the birth of our savior. The opportunities for teaching kids this time of year is never-ending. I love pulling out the lights and handmade crafts by my kids to put on display, the fire department would cringe at the level of candles and lights throughout my home. After all the decorations have been hung and the traditions are in place, that leaves the gifts. In a season of giving, I absolutely love to get gifts for others. As I talk to parents every year during this time I am asked for recommendations. By tradition we do a family gift, something we can do together. So here is a list of ideas, gifts that are unusual and possibly irreplaceable that you can do as parents or even pass to the grand kids.

1. A Family Year Book
 (This falls under that irreplaceable type gift)
Take your favorite pictures from throughout the year and send in for a book. Best of all, the photos are printed onto the hardcover bound book, so they won't age. You can get as creative or simple as you like, and as small or large as you like. I make one for our family and someday my kids will take them, we also make a copy for the grandparents. This can even be a great gift for those hard to buy for teenagers or for homesick college students.

2. Families that play together
 Yes! I love anything that gets the family moving as a unit! And after the holidays we all usually say we need more exercise. What about a family gift of new bikes? New basketball hoop and everyone gets their own ball? Our family has a new pool table, so personalized cue sticks are something I am hunting for.

3. The gift of sports

 Did you know that most stadiums, arenas and locations where pro-teams play offer private tours? Not quite the economy to spend hundreds of dollars on pro game tickets, but maybe your kids are sports fans. On average tours are about $15 a person and kids get to discover every nook and cranny of these places including their favorite athlete's locker!

4. Game night
 Our kids love to play board games. But as they have gotten older our games have become outdated. So a wicker chest full of updated games is a great gift! If you don't have a "no TV" family game night, then a basket of games, and popcorn would be an easy way to add it to your new year!

5. The gift of giving
 A family I know will adopt a child from compassion international this year. This is actually something they choose to do at Christmas as a family. Their plan is to have the kids write letters and celebrate this child all year. I love this idea! In our home we adopt a child from the local children's home, but there are many ways that this could be done. Down to wrapping up a sum of money and the gift being letting the children how to decide to use it in a giving sense. Children who are actively involved in the decision making tend to have an ownership of this process.

Hopefully these give you a few ideas. In a world that we as Americans have so much, it's become a love to find things we can give to our children that will create lasting memories and moments that strengthen our family rather than items that will never make it out of a toy box. My children are 10 and 16 this year. They still find crazy joy in picking their yearly ornament for the tree that will someday become the starter collection for their own family. It's amazing to watch them shop for our "adopted" Christmas child and seeing them want to get everything on their list out of love. I truly believe that the investments made, when based on the knowledge that God gave us Jesus who then gave everything (His life) as an example for how we give of ourselves, make times like Christmas pure joy in giving.

What scares you?

"Do something every day that scares you"

 Eleanor Roosevelt

This quote alone makes me think she (Eleanor) and I would have gotten along well. Eleanor's story has always fascinated me. She was orphaned at the age of 10 and sent away to school to help her "come out of her shell". She endured an ill husband, the death of her parents, and the death of a child, yet was still strong enough to change the role of the first lady. She was feisty, and wanted to make a difference.

As I have read more about her, I can't help but come to the conclusion that a desire to be challenged and constantly be learning helped make her who she was.

I desire this kind of momentum. The hunger to constantly be learning and moving forward while being in the safe walls of God's will. It's that funky balance of things flying by, life moving fast, but being able to see things through the eyes of Christ. Like snorkeling! You know, the waves are crashing, wind blowing, but when you are all in the water it's a calm beautiful picture. Nothing changed, other than your view.

Three years ago I injured my neck to the point that use of my right arm became questionable. I was a wife, young mother of two, very active, and a children's director. I allowed this injury to knock me down, both physically and spiritually. I was unable to sit in my desk without pain and couldn't hold any of my ministry babies since my right hand was useless. I started to question just about everything I knew about myself and at one point, even my calling. Craig Jutila has said "sometimes God puts us on our back, so we have to look up". This was definitely a flat on my back moment. Over the course of the next 18 months of physical therapy, and every other kind of neuro treatment, (there is some weird stuff out there! let's just say electricity was involved) I was able to slowly regain use, and most of the strength of my right arm and hand. Giving this to God was the only way I can explain the healing I received for what I was told only surgery could fix.

I have a new appreciation for this body God has given me to do His work. And a new commitment to make sure it's taken care of so I can do just that!

2011 CPC

The next March, sitting in the courtyard at C.P.C. (Children's Pastor's Conference, it's fierce! You should go!) I was reading my Bible desperately trying to discover where God wanted me. I remember sitting there and asking, like I had for months, where I needed to be. I assumed that God wanted my attention and I must be in the wrong place. Well I wasn't, actually I was in the right place all along. However just like that snorkeling bit from earlier, I had my head up in the crashing waves, trying to control it all myself. I wasn't until I gave it all to God that I could see clearly. I remember sitting there and having this moment of clarity and relief. I love ministering to kids, to families and to the adults I serve with. I couldn't imagine being moved from that, even though I would if He said go. Just like losing access to my hand for a bit gave me a new appreciation for the physical, the idea of not ministering like I do gave me a new passion for the spiritual. I went home from that conference with a renewed passion for what God has called me to do, and more excitement than ever to do it with.

So the picture above, what does lifting have to do with this blog? Well, I am a creature of comfort and habit, but also a lover of challenge. Once my doctor said "okay, you may exercise" my husband and I looked for a new plan. I had gained 80 pounds with said injury, and I needed it gone! We decided to try a new workout and recently took on the terrifying experience of actually participating in a crossfit competition. I learned to lift properly, something totally out of my element, but it made me stronger and showed me how mentally strong I could be. Jason and I have both dropped about 80 pounds each and are getting hands on with developing an active family ministry.

2012 at CPC
Stealing unattended VBS supplies of course

Lifting weights is one of my daily "something terrifying" activities. It makes me stronger, keeps me physically in shape to keep up with ministry, and it is a huge release of stress. It also has become something we do as a family and is strengthening our marriage.

So exactly one year later, as I sit here at the end of C.P.C., again thrilled and recharged for ministry. I encourage you to learn something new every day, find a physical form of release and try something out of your element. God has big plans for us, and we need to be able to keep up!

I would love to hear about your journey sometime,

Heidi M. Hensley