Beyond Background Checks

If you attended this session at CPC, thank you! You made it so much fun.

Below you will find the slide show as promised. If you didn't attend the session, you can get a copy of it on the incm website and use these notes as tips.

Remember, what we do requires us keeping kids safe. A safe loving, well thought out atmosphere allows families to go to church together and grow without worrying about safety.

Here is the link to my volunteer application as well.

The history of family ministry in 5 drawings - Dr. Timothy Paul Jones

Dr. Timothy Paul Jones

Jesus didn't come to die for your ministry.. He came to die for the people in your ministry.

How did the story line in our ministries get so small?

The history of family ministry in 5 drawings

societies, late 1800's

Efficiency Movement

early 1900's

The factory system turned in to a church
three key components

 centralize - everything is done at the church

segments - everyone is in their section

professionalize - an expert in each area

Separation
mid 1900's
A movement that separated the youth from the congregation until they were old enough to be in "big church"

Dis-Intigration

late 1900's

The congregation became a collection of programs; a conglomeration of separated silos.

In this format we do not tell the big story

The family ministry movement is coming from the dissatisfaction of the dis-integration era.

Coordination
present and future
The answer isn't to get rid of all the programs; it's to connect them. All things have an inward focus (connecting the interior happenings) as well as an outward focus (connecting with outreach)

We are all part of a bigger story of the ages, don't invite people to your church programs, invite them to be a part of a story that's bigger than the ages.


What do I do in my church?
Don't go back and start something new. Go back and transform what is in existence.
TIE! Find out how anything you do fits into "TIE"
Train - teach them how to do something to disciple their kids
Involve - make it rely on parent involvement (and set up back up "parents" for kids whose parents don't attend)
Equip - give them tools


What do you do with you?

Don't find your identity in your ministry, the story is bigger than you. Our story is rooted in Jesus.

Rob Morgan Notes at D62013

Rob Morgan is the senior pastor of The Donelson Fellowship in Nashville, TN. 

Luke 15

Five steps in the grace cycle. 

Instead of being in a cycle of grief, live in a cycle of grace

The appropriate response for any christian when another person makes a change for Christ in their life is joy!

1. Pain

• In the Gospels, Jesus always intervened on behalf of distressed parents

2. Prayer

• The prayers of a righteous [parent] is powerful and effective. (James 5:16)

3. Patience

• time is on our side 

4. Peace

• Prodigals have a way of coming home

5. Praise

• Give God the praise 

Three Gifts Everyone Needs - Dave Stone

Three Gifts Everyone Needs
notes from Dave Stone's session at D62013

Kids can bring out the wort in parents and leaders, we have to remember that we have been entrusted with them.

Children are like arrows. They need to be sharpened, straightened, aimed and released.


Three gifts everyone (every child) needs

1. The gift of value

• we live in a world that "looks out for number one"
• what do we value in terms of our ministry priorities; our priorities state our values
• calling people by name; small gestures that say "I value you"

when people see that they are of value in your life; you can then speak into their life

Do you sleep in your home? Or do you live in your neighborhood?

2. The gift of extended grace

• People are messy; when you get involved in the life of others you will have to extend grace
• As Jesus extends grace to us; we must extend grace to others
• We show grace, because we need grace. For this reason we must be on the lookout for people needing this. 
• For some people it's easier to believe that Jesus rose from the dead, than it is to believe that He can forgive our sin
• Sometimes we need to extend grace to ourselves

3. The gift of Love

• Show love to one another 
• Activity for Christ does not equal intimacy with Christ
• If the Holy Spirit pulled out of your life, would you even know He was gone

Satan knows your name but he calls you by your sin; Jesus knows your sin but calls you by your name.

Your heavenly father wants to value you, extend grace to you, and show you love. For some of us we are so wrapped up in what we do, we are missing it.

Rob Reinow Session Notes D62013

In the early church family ministry was not just parenting ministry.

2 Timothy 3:14-17
The Bible is true; and it is enough.

Teaching - how to think right
reproof - how not to think wrong
Correction - how not to act wrong
training in righteousness - how to act right


Four levels of scripture

1. Doctrine - the truth of God
2. Righteousness - the will of God
3. Methodology - the ways of God
4. Jurisdiction - the call of God

The Jurisdiction Principle
When a larger jurisdiction usurps responsibility from a lesser jurisdiction
1. the crisis will not be solved
2. the proper jurisdiction is robbed of motivation, time. and resources to do the job



3 theological foundations
1.  the sufficiency of scripture
2. the doctrine of jurisdiction
3. the patterns and commands for the early church. given to us by God in the Bible, sre to be followed by us today

Children were included in the corporate worship service of the early church
There is scripture for every ministry in our churches. I tried to capture everything mentioned; here are the examples used below.
-Colossians 3
-Ephesians 6
-Acts 20
-Titus 2:4-5
-Titus 1
-1Timothy 3

Global Missions begins with Genesis 1:28... "Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth..."

How does evangelism fit into family ministry?
- The early church shared their faith in the marketplace
- The early church shared their faith in their home, through meals and hospitality

All of this content can be found in "Limited Church : Unlimited Kingdom"

Notes for Todd Wagner @ D62013

Three institutions that God values...

• Family - God's gift to pass on the means to which we can go on

• Marriage - the building block of society

• Government - is a divine institution that is designed to punish evil and preserve justice

The bond which forms the family is marriage

Marriage is a big deal because God loves people
Marriage is to mirror God's character

equality, unity, diversity all must be present to properly define the trinity.

The perfect example of the structure of the trinity is displayed in God's design of marriage

4 ways to improve marriages in your church

1. You have got to be authentic

• look at your own marriage
• if every marriage in your church looked like yours, what would your church look like?
• How are you doing at setting the example, are you able to say "imitate me"?

2. Be committed

• The purpose of marriage is that there would be unity
• The purpose of marriage is not that you would be un-divorced; there's more
• When you define love with anything less than the cross, it loses it's power

3. Be connected

• be connected to others that love you
• Have accountability

4. Be aware

• Know that there is an enemy - Ephesians 5:22
• Be strong in the grace of the Lord
• Marriage takes place on a spiritual battlefield; not a romantic balcony

Notes for Darrin Patrick @ D6 2013

Great session with Darrin Patrick! While the focus of his talk was how men lead and grow spiritually, this is relevant to us all. Darrin reminded us that as we grow, our true growth comes from the love Christ has for us and our joy comes from the spirit. These are the true motives for following God, nothing in our fleshly power will enable a relationship with Jesus.


How spiritual fruit grows

Galatians 5:13-26

1. Fruit grows hollistically

• They all grow together
• You're weakest trait shows your level of spiritual maturity
• If your "faithfulness" is of the Spirit, then it will be accompanied by the other fruits of the Spirit

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of - throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”     - C.S. Lewis

2. Fruit grows internally

• You cannot legislate character from the outside in
• Law cannot do anything about the source of sin
• Only the spirit can change the heart
• Only the  spirit can give you love and joy, which are the motives for following God

3. Fruit grows gradually

• Sin grows gradually; but so does growth
• We often don't recognize our growth because it is gradual
• Fruit is growing all at once; not all at the same speed; but all at once

When you think that its your work that is keeping God in relationship with you, that is the anti-gospel.

Your flesh is the thing that is trying to get approval, status, and recognition from things other than Jesus. 

The way to kill the spiritual flesh is with physical flesh

4. Fruit grows communally 

• We have to have people around us who know hat our sin is
• We need accountability
• We often show the fruit; but is anyone seeing the root?